For many people, the three items of the title are luxury goods. Or even mythical figures, impossible to be achieved in the troubled routine of modern life. Going after one of them is something that takes time and this is the most luxury item of today. But is this true? Is it so hard to achieve these moments and feelings that do so well for everyone?
I do not intend in this text to bring a magic formula on how to reach them. I also do not intend to put me as a heroine that reached it to the fullest. Maybe my goal today is just resume the reflection on these issues and show that regardless of time or not, we can not give up trying to incorporate these themes in our lives.
The serene life
We often live our lives so automatic that we forget to think rationally about our surroundings. We allow ourselves to delve into problems and irritations without even thinking about what’s going on. I believe that serenity comes exactly at those times.
To know not to get carried away and especially to see the issues as if you were out of the swirl are for me great serenity demonstrations.
I have always let the environment affects me. When everything is in harmony, I am euphoric. When all is confused, I almost get lost in my own chaos and anxiety. I began to realize how much it hurt me and someone recommended me yoga. You know those times when you do not see a lot of options and try a little of everything? So I went and it worked very well for me.
I still could not throw my anxiety out and am still influenced by the environment that surrounds me, but I started to breathe before I get carried away by my surroundings. I try to somehow choose the issues that I really should invest energy and health, rather than throw myself in any situation that passes in front of me. For me, serenity is to make better choices in my daily life: to know which battles I intend to fight and not feel remorse for those which, consciously, I let go.
Leisure: everyone wants, but no one assumes
First, let’s face it: everyone says that wanted to have a free time, but deep down or can not sit still or die of shame to say that was not doing anything. Unfortunately, we are still misjudged if we seem unoccupied.
For many years, I was one of those who can not sit still. I lived filling my routine with projects and activities. Stay two days without a task seemed an eternity and I soon arranged some occupation. And I found it great! What a productive person!
Until I realize it wasn’t that way. I started reading about it and especially compare my life with the life of people who live in small towns, for example. I began to wonder why such urgency and constant hurry.
This must have been one of the longest and complex processes by which’ve been, but I began to seek leisure spaces in my routine. I gave up activities I loved because I knew they were in excess. I went through the estrangement of getting home early from work and have nothing to do. It was really strange, believe me. I started slowly to allow me idleness.
At first I did not enjoy it. It was uncomfortable. My mind charged me to be occupied, but I insisted and gradually I began to see the value of these “empty” moments. I put the “empty” word in quotes because I realized that these moments began to be filled with what really matters. Perhaps the yoga also helped me in this, mainly by the complex exercise to emptying the mind, something almost impossible in the beginning.
To have idle moments allows us to breathe and think without charges. It helps us to make better choices and to reflect on what really matters.
Realizing the value of leisure, I was no more ashamed to say that I had nothing to do in the evening or on a Saturday. And I didn’t feel bad about it, which brings us to the third point of the text.
The absence of guilt
Consumption, guilt and fear. These three items are sufficient for a number of texts and reflections, but we will focus on a small part of that system: live guilty. It may be something unconscious, but we slept and woke up thinking about what failed, what was not so good and where did we made mistakes. Probably this is directly linked to the fact of being charged all the time to do everything with superhuman excellence, especially when we live in large urban centers and work in multinational giants. Or small companies, whatever.
I don’t have an idea of how to achieve a state of absence of guilt, I dare say it’s impossible, but I believe that thinking about it helps eliminate certain guilts we do not have to carry. As we do not think about it, we are always accumulating layers and layers of guilt, without even questioning if indeed we need to blame ourselves for all this.
Small guilts we throw away already bring a great relief. As in the example I gave, not feeling guilty when I’m idle is already a great thing. Do not feel guilty for problems that were not in our reach to solve also helps. It is a matter of reflection. It’s a matter of having space to make choices.
Anyway, today I seek daily to take small steps in the direction of these three elements. I believe I have a long way to go, but I know that open our eyes to this is essential. It is human. And that’s what I believe is the bridge to a life that is fully lived.
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