I’ll propose you something unexpected: to write a letter to yourself 10 years younger. It’s natural that you’re thinking “Letter? Who writes a letter nowadays?” or ” I won’t do it. This is a ridiculous thing! ” or even ” That girl must be crazy”. But I can assure you it’s a very interesting self-knowledge exercise. If you don’t want to write at least take a moment to think about it. And even better, you don’t have to feel embarrassed publishing this letter on the internet, as I’m doing to encourage you to write your own. You can keep your secrets to yourself. I can’t.
“Today I’m 25 years old and I’d like to say some things to you, Juliana 15 years. Firstly, I’m sorry to inform you that most of your plans didn’t work out. You won’t be able to leave home and live on your own at 18. Maybe if you knew how much things cost and how much people earn at this age, you wouldn´t even be deluded with this idea. But that doesn’t mean you won’t become independent. Even living with your parents you will be able to choose their own paths and you conquer different opinions.
The person for whom you’re completely in love now will not give you a damn. You will suffer, a lot, but you’ll survive. In the future, it’ll yield you very funny stories and you’ll be able to feel ashamed of some things that only passionate teenagers do. It’ll be worth.
You’ll finally have the courage to dye your hair blonde, after years of natural alternatives: chamomile, milk, beer, etc .. This will have consequences. It’ll attract the attention of a guy who has always studied with you, but barely spoke to you. He’ll be a great partner and you’ll date at least 9 years (we’re still together so I do not know when it’ll end, if it’ll. I hope no). The bad part is that you’ll soon get tired of having to spend 3 hours in the salon and spend some money to stay blonde. Your hair color will never be the same.
Leaving the love stories apart. I have some bad news for you. Get ready! All torment to choose “what to be when growing up” and “which course I’ll study in the university” won’t pass. In fact, it’ll get more intense with time. You’ll keep questioning yourself, more and more. Especially when you realize that being director of a big company is not as cool as it appears in those lectures you attended in the school. You must be thinking right now: “What the f … and now? What will I be? ” I can’t tell you what job you’ll get because I’ve just quit. But don’t worry I’ll fix it.
Even realizing that the business world is not for you, it doesn’t mean that five years working in a large company will be boring. In fact it’ll be almost the opposite. You’ll enjoy a lot. You’ll meet amazing people who will support you to leave, when it was expected that they try to convince you to stay. This will make your decision even harder, because leaving your job also means giving up the daily contact with very special people and play in a world of uncertainty. But you will not regret it, because you don’t just KNOW, but also FEEL that you had to change.
If I could I’d give you some advice, even knowing you’re too stubborn to follow them. You should study in a university in another city, because the desire to leave Sao Paulo will never let you in peace. Don’t take your studies so seriously, because over time you will realize that the difference between 8 and 10 is minimal compared the stories you hear in bars and live in college games.
Use your free time, while you just study, to meet different people, as different as possible. Over the years you’ll miss a bit of contradiction, opposition and new ideas. Don’t let the fact of not having car stop you from visit new places. Go to neuroscience lectures. Go to alternative rock bands concerts. Meet a Boy Scout, a chess player, a biologist expert in dinosaurs. Learn from uncommon.
Finally, promise me you’ll do the exchange program you always want, and you’ll never give up Yoga. Living in Holland for six months will expand your sense of the world. And changing the way we see the world has irreversible consequences. Yoga will prove to be the most effective therapy against your fears and the most subtle way to correct yours defects.
Do you remember when I told you that you will meet special people at work? One of them will become a great friend who will invite you to write for an amazing website that she’ll create. So you have to live many interesting experiences to have what to tell here.”
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