When we venture ourselves into something new, often one of the few certainties we have is that we have to deal with numerous uncertainties. It is impossible to eliminate all these uncertainties, but learning how to deal with them is a big step.
Whatever the size of your new adventure (a simple change or a life revolution), I will share four tips that have helped me a lot:
1) Create your own certainty: When you decided to venture yourself, you probably saw some reason for making that choice, right? What I call to the create your own certainly is the appropriating of that reason so that it is stronger than any uncertainty.
In my case, for example, I chose to quit a normal career in the corporate world to take my dream out of the dark and created the Sun Jar, a movement based on helping others to take their dream out from the dark. There were many reasons that made me make this choice, but the main reason was the fact that I believe I would be much happier putting my dream into practice, than let it be just a dream. This is main reason is what I called “my own certainty.” Many boring things, unforeseen, fears and anxieties happened and are natural from the choice I made, but the fact that I have “my own certainty” gives me the strength to cope and resist them all.
2) Structure your inner home: do you know when we build a house and prepare her as best as possible to withstand the various vagaries of nature? We’re not sure of unforeseen events that are to come, and even if we would continue living there in the long run, but we prepare that place in the best way we can in order to welcome us and protect us.
Structure your inner home is preparing yourself for your new adventure, preparing integrally, considering the spheres: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. In other words, ask yourself: is my body ready to handle the consequences of my choice? And are my emotions stable and mature enough to face the uncertainties? Rationally, am I prepared and able to plan and organize myself in order to best deal with the uncertain? And lastly, am I spiritually ready to handle this new step? Based on previous answers, think: What can I do to better prepare myself if necessary?
No problem if you didn’t prepare yourself before and just jump straight to your new adventure, stop now to reflect about this questions and how you can act in order to structure your inner home.
3) Learn to like the uncertain: for me this was one of the most controversial points and undoubtedly my greatest insight. I’ve always hated routine or something too structured about to choke me and not let me innovate, but to make my decision to take my dream out from the dark, I was scared to death of dealing with each of the uncertainties, within me, I wanted to have already all the answers.
What I gradually realized is that if from one side the fact that I have no idea about what would happen scared me, at the same time it became really fascinating and fertile. Of course many times the events were not nice, but the big part of the time I was just surprised by completely unexpected things that opened a range of opportunities that I would never imagined if things were always controlled and assured. That is, I came to like uncertainty, I find grace in simply not knowing about things and give space to be surprised.
4) Believe: This is the simplest tip to pass, but not always the easiest to apply. Remember the tip 2 of “structuring your inner home”? We talked, among other things, to be spiritually prepared. In my view, the best way to be spiritually prepared, regardless the creed you have, is by believing! Believing that the Universe conspires in your favor, believing that if you do your part, things will happen in the best way. Sometimes when things happen, we can’t understand the whys, but after a while, everything becomes clearer, we connect the dots and realised that it could not be otherwise.
These tips have helped me a lot in dealing with uncertainties making them become something more natural for me, I hope they can also be useful for you. J
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