Finding yourself is definitely one of the main, if not the most popular, themes for the people who reach out to me to do a coaching program. I see a lot of people looking for answers to questions like: “Who am I? What do I like? What am I good at? What meaning does my life have? What is important to me? What is not good for me? What makes me happy?”
How do you get to know yourself better?
On the one hand, learning more about yourself is literally a never-ending process, since we can spend our whole lives finding out more about who we are. On the other, it is totally within our reach, in the sense that each and every experience we have may help us take a more careful look at ourselves.
To me the whole point is that, although these moments allow us to get to know ourselves better are within our reach, the amount of external information we receive today is so huge, and the lack of time so constant that we often don’t even to remember to take a look inside ourselves nor do we realize how interesting that could be.
Taking a look inside ourselves is that moment when you stop, take a deep breath and really look at yourself, at your own needs, wishes, aspirations, limitations and all the other things that concern you and how that is connected to what is on the outside. In other words, what I am calling “taking a look inside” is actually a constant exercise of self-observation.
A simple and cool tip is to try and stop at least once a day and take a deep breath and a good look at yourself, paying attention to what you are feeling at that moment, what thoughts are going through your head and what you are physically feeling. If you do that in different situations and start taking note of what you have observed, in a few days you will have a lot of new information about yourself. Then you will be able to come to certain conclusions that will help you answer those questions mentioned at the beginning of this post.
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