Have you ever felt so angry that you could not see clearly? Anger is one of the most powerful emotions we have to deal with, when we are really angry we tend to say and do things that we regret later on.
Lose your temper, rarely solves our problems. Instead, it can lead to relationship issues, difficulties in work situations and, in the long term, even health concerns.
But what to do to avoid losing control when our blood is boiling? In this text, I share 9 tips to help you keep your anger under control:
1) Before acting, breathe:
Every time you get angry and about to do something you will regret later, breathe slowly and deeply then 10 times. For a few seconds, stop whatever you are doing and focus exclusively on inhale and exhale.
2) Pay attention to your body’s signals
Our body is an amazing tool to help us monitor our internal feelings. We always somatize what we are experiencing. Some people when afraid, feels an emptiness in the chest, others turn red with anger. Each person has a unique way of representing their feeling through the body, the more we pay attention to our own body, the more we can learn about our feelings and ways to control them.
3) Remember to consider the adverse effects
Stopping to reflect in the heat of emotion, is not an easy task, but worth trying. When you feel overcome with anger, try to consider all the negative effects of acting impulsively. Do you really want to damage or destroy your relationship by losing your temper? Imagine what effect their your words can have on someone else.
4) Become more assertive and express your emotions regularly
Learn to become more assertive instead of aggressive. Some people do not usually express their feelings regularly, keeping a lot inside. The accumulation of many emotions can make us explode suddenly. Rather than save a lot of feelings inside you and then express them inappropriately, try to address the issue and express yourself assertively when the situations occur.
5) Take a timeout
You know the famous quote about counting to 10 before acting? When you are extremely angry with someone or some situation before acting, take some timeout. Go for a walk outdoors, do some exercise, take a shower or do another activity that you enjoy in order to let off some steam.
6) Journal your feelings
When you’re angry and need to vent about something, take a piece of paper and write down your feelings and anxieties. You can also write the pros and cons of different forms of action to deal with the situation you are experiencing. Writing is a way of putting out our feelings, it helps us to take away some of the negativity that we are feeling without damaging others.
7) Avoid taking things personally
Often we tend to take things too personally too. There’s so much that happens to more people or was because the person was angry with life and not with us and we ended up by taking the pain for us. An interesting tip is to try to put yourself for a moment in the place of someone else, try to see the situation through her eyes and realize new views on what ails you.
8) Have a broader look
We often get so tied to a specific event or moment that we forget everything that happens around us. Try to stop and get a broader perspective on the subject or situation you are experiencing. With so many important things in life is it really worth losing the reason because someone cut you off in traffic?
9) Have everyday moments of pleasure
If we live a life of constant stress, it is even more difficult to keep track. So always try to include moments of pleasure in your routine. Set aside some time in the week to do something you enjoy, that makes you relax. It can even be something as simple as watch the sunset, take a longer bath, listen to music, watch a movie. These simple things can’t only help you slow down as will help you remember what’s truly important in life.
By understanding how to deal with our anger in a healthier way, we can become more effective at managing the difficulties we are faced with on a day-to-day basis. Learning to control our anger, rather than allowing it to control us, is a key step to improve our relationships and experience more joy and happiness in our lives.
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