Want to improve your way of dealing with people and your relationships more promising? In this text I give you 9 simple and effective tips for applying in your everyday life.
1) Complain less, be more positive
How do you feel when you’re next to a person who spends the day complaining and criticizing others? With someone for whom everything is a problem and nothing is ever good enough?
Negative people tend to lower the energy of the environment, discourage people around them. Humans hardly like to be discouraged or put down, the trend is moving away from these kind of people.
So if you want to attract, rather than move people away, let the complaints and excessive criticism aside and became someone who knows how to see the positive side and give value to what is around you!
Numerous studies have shown that smiling is good for health, which already brings us a good reason to smile. But beyond that, the smile is also a captivating element, a smile is able to charm people.
Have you ever stopped to think how good is to see someone smiling? Smiling make people are more attractive.
A smile may be able to brighten our day. We all know that actions speak louder than words and a smile can express:. “I like you”, “You make me happy”, ‘I’m happy to see you.”. Who wouldn’t feel good about something like that?
Make people around feel better and at the same time improve your health: smile more!
3) Be interested in other people
If you want to expand your network, make good friends and be liked by the people around you, it is essential that you are interested in them.
It is natural to the human being to like when others show interest for them, so we tend to sympathize with someone who wonder about others rather than focusing only on themselves.
Moreover, when we are interested in knowing more about others, we not only sympathize, but we end up by discovering amazing things about people, finding common and complementary interests and that can open a sea of opportunities.
4) Be a good listener
Complementing the previous section, another important tip for interpersonal relationships is being able to listen.
Isn’t it awful when you’re talking with someone and the person is not even there for what we’re saying?
We feel disrespected, belittled, unimportant.
Give undivided attention to the person with whom you are talking, makes that person feel well treated, shows respect and concern.
Therefore, good salespeople say the key to excellent customer service is active listening, in other words, listening to the interlocutor with presence and full attention.
5) Always call someone by his name
Finding out the name of the people and treating them by their name shows sympathy and attention. We all hate when someone forgets our name or call us by the wrong name.
Asking the person’s name and always remembering to call them by the same is a very simple gesture that makes a huge difference to your relationships.
Doesn’t matter if is with a person with whom you want to do business, either with your doorman, always remember to call them by name. Anyone like that!
6) Make sincere compliments
When we became interested in people, we naturally tend to observe aspects we admire in them, it can be a simple way to look, an attitude or a way of being.
But we not always express our admiration. The sixth tip, advises you doing that. When you have a sincere compliment to someone, go out there and do it! Everyone likes to be admired.
I’m not suggesting making fake compliments or lying in order to please others, doing so can even have the opposite effect. The tip here is to express the positive aspects that you really see in people! =)
7) Put yourself in the place of another
Often we are so concerned with ourselves and our problems that we forget to look around us. Or maybe we are so sure of our opinion and our way of seeing the world, that no other seems possible.
If you want to relate well with people, it is essential practice empathy, to put yourself in the place of others.
Browse to talk to someone, imagine yourself as that person, understand the reality and circumstances in which she lives, visualize what it’s like to be in her body. Try to see the world through her eyes.
Doing so opens our horizons, we realized things that we would never see if we were closed, we understand much more and became more tolerant and open to others opinions.
8) Respect others opinions
Giving an almost natural continuity to tip 7, tip 8 suggests that you respect others opinions.
Even if they are different or opposite to your opinion, try to not be disrespectful or belittle someone for having a way of seeing different from yours.
You don’t need to change your opinion if you don’t agree with theirs, but avoid saying things like: “You’re wrong.” This tends to create irritability and dislike.
Instead, be diplomatic, first listen carefully to the other person and understand their point of view, demonstrate respect for their opinion and then place in a serene and friendly way that you understand their point of view, but that you see things differently.
Be subtle rather than being exhaustive, using phrases like “seems”, “in this moment”, “in my opinion”, can be useful.
9) If you make a mistake, acknowledge
Finally, the ninth and last tip! When you make mistakes, realize you did or said something that could be done differently, simply recognize.
We are human and make mistakes, there is nothing bad to apologize. Rather, people tend to respect and admire those who are able to recognize their mistakes and redeem themselves.
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